• Does your partner or spouse criticize you often?

• Does your partner or spouse embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?

• Does your partner or spouse throw or break objects in the home or damage the home itself during arguments?

• Are you afraid of the consequences of a fight?

• Does your partner or spouse look at you or act in ways that scare you?

• Do you constantly feel afraid at home? Has your partner or spouse threatened to hurt you or your children?

• Have they put their hands on you against your will or has forced you to do something you did not want to do?

• Has your partner or spouse ever forced you to have sex or made you do things during sex that make you feel uncomfortable?

• Does your partner or spouse demand sex when you are sick, tired, or sleeping?

• Does your partner or spouse refuse to let you sleep at night?

• Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from taking medication you needed or from seeking medical help?

• Has your partner or spouse ever hurt your pets or destroyed your clothing, objects in your home, or something which you especially cared about?

• Is your partner or spouse excessively jealous - for example, always calling you at work or home to check up on you?

• Has your partner or spouse threatened to commit suicide if you leave?

• Is it hard for you to maintain relationships with your friends, relatives, neighbors, or co-workers because your partner or spouse disapproves of, argues with, or criticizes them?

• Does your partner or spouse accuse you of unjustly flirting with others or having affairs?

• Has your partner or spouse ever tried to keep you from leaving the house?

• Does your partner or spouse make it hard for you to find or keep a job or go to school?

• Does your partner or spouse withhold money from you when you need it?

• Does your partner or spouse sometimes spend large sums of money and refuse to tell you why or what the money was spent on?

• Has your partner or spouse ever used or threatened to use a weapon against you? Are there guns in your home?

• Does your partner or spouse abuse drugs or alcohol? What happens?

If you're not sure how - use this DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SAFETY PLAN