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Rights of a Wife
The Qur'an states: "And among His signs is
that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in
tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; Verily,
in that are signs for people who reflect." (30:21)
Marriage is therefore not just a physical
or emotional necessity, but in fact, a sign from God! It is a relationship
of mutual rights and obligations based on divine guidance. God created men
and women with complimentary natures, and in the Qur'an, He laid out a
system of laws to support harmonious interaction between the sexes.
"...They are your garments and you are
their garments." (2:187)
Clothing provides physical protection and
covers the beauty and faults of the body. Likewise, a spouse is viewed this
way. Each protects the other and hides the faults and compliments the
characteristics of the spouse.
To foster the love and security that comes
with marriage, Muslim wives have various rights. The first of the wife's
rights is to receive mahr, a gift from the husband which is part of the
marriage contract and required for the legality of the marriage.
The second right of a wife is maintenance.
Despite any wealth she may have, her husband is obligated to provide her
with food, shelter and clothing. He is not forced, however, to spend beyond
his capability and his wife is not entitled to make unreasonable demands.
The Qur'an states: "Let the man of means spend according to his means, and
the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what
Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has
given him." (65:7)
God tells us men are guardians over women
and are afforded the leadership in the family. His responsibility for
obeying God extends to guiding his family to obey God at all times.
A wife's rights also extend beyond material
needs. She has the right to kind treatment. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "The
most perfect believers are the best in conduct. And the best of you are
those who are best to their wives." God tells us He created mates and put
love, mercy, and tranquility between them.
Both men and women have a need for
companionship and sexual needs, and marriage is designed to fulfill those
needs. For one spouse to deny this satisfaction to the other, temptation
exists to seek it elsewhere. |